The Canvas Grey

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My Mary Kay Story

Posted by thecanvasgrey on April 15, 2007

I think my story is typical and that is exactly why I’m sharing it.  I want others to KNOW what happened with me and has happened with hundreds of thousands of other women.     I’ve always been into skin care and cosmetics.  I enjoy taking care of my skin and I like the way I look after I’ve applied my make-up 

When I was 20 my friend started Mary Kay and I had a party for her.  The line was okay but not for me.  She wanted me to sign in as her recruit but I didn’t.  I wanted to pursue a business career.  Cosmetics and playing in them was just for me.    Then, for a brief time in my late 20’s I used and sold Jafra.  It is a cosmetic company that started around the same time as Mary Kay and “works” in much the same way.  I did learn quite a bit about skin care and make-up during that time.  They had more training in one month than I got in 10 months of Mary Kay.  I remember I stopped selling Jafra because I wasn’t making any money.  I went back to department and drugstore cosmetics.   

Throughout my 30’s I tried Mary Kay off and on when I was invited to a party.  Looking back it seems during my 20’s and 30’s I went to WAY too many parties and bought stuff to help out a friend that wanted the host gift.  Sound familiar?      After turning 40 I knew the same old stuff wasn’t working for my aging skin.  I started to look for the “right system” for me.  I tried all types of systems from those on QVC, HSN to department store lines.  I wasn’t finding anything that worked for me.  And I had all kinds of half used items lying around.  I was tired of searching and remembered Mary Kay.  I started buying it from eBay stores.  Sometimes I got good product, other times not.   

We moved to a new area, far from family and friends.  I wanted to find some women to connect with and started going to a local gym.  One of the ladies was…you guessed it…a Mary Kay director.  Next thing I knew I was at a large party talking with women of all ages about one of my favorite subjects, cosmetics.  I tried all the new products and my face looked fabulous.  They fed me lunch and seemed like such good women.  I was entranced.  I enquired about the career opportunity because it all sounded so great.  90% buy back, only $100 to get started; everyone was happy and excited about their 20 to 30 year business.  The whole system costs $400 retail; why not save $300 and make some money at the same time!  HOW COULD I LOSE?????  MARY KAY IS SO REPUTABLE.  Sign me up! I made the financial decision to invest in a small store.  I wanted to have some inventory of basic items, some samples, office supplies which included everything from pens to staples to files to paper clips, the list went on and on.  I readily admit that it was FUN to go out and buy these things.  It was FUN to get packages in the mail to open, sort through and place into my inventory.  I enjoyed it.  I enjoyed making up flyers, facials (I preferred the one on one, I enjoyed getting to know the lady, sincerely wanted to help her, and I always sold more), running my own business on my terms (which simply isn’t true), and I was setting my own hours (uh, not really).  I knew that for the first couple of months I would be busy getting all these things set.  My family came last during this time…not first, last, we were all sacrificing to make it easier in the long run of my business.   

Because I opened a store and was a STAR consultant and had recruited I was told I’d be honored at a quarterly meeting.  I was to receive recognition for a great beginning.  They asked me to give them money so I could attend the meeting where I’d be honored.  I thought that a bit odd but obliged because I was excited to get a night out for myself. It was fun, a bit over the top in the rah-rah area for me but still fun.  As we were paraded about in order of our Stars I realized that this ranking system didn’t depend upon who SOLD the most, it was based on who BOUGHT the most from Mary Kay Corporation.  I saw women out in the audience selling raffle tickets to win HALF of the pot.  Okay, who got the other half of the pot, I thought.  Then the I-stories started pouring across the stage.  I’d never heard speeches like these before, about someone being so happy to be in a company and what success they were having in “their business”.  They all started to sound the same but very excited.  Later I wondered about all the phrases they were using (which are scripts).  I wondered why I was supposed to say things to clients that didn’t seem natural to me.   

I moved on and I sold quite well for a while; mostly to family and friends and then to their friends and some neighbors (this is completely typical). I invested in some bridal lists and advertising leads (to the tune of $450) but not ONE of those panned out … NOT ONE response from calls or postcards (which cost time and money).  Yes, I did both in a desperate attempt to get SOME of my money back, but I did not.   After about five months I became frustrated.  I was working almost 12/7, always in “Mary Kay uniform” and full face (because heck, I never knew who I would run into or who would call wanting to stop by for an order - ALWAYS ON).  Every quarter there were NEW products to buy (at least one as a tester) and some things I still had in inventory were already discontinued…I had JUST gotten people to try and buy them.  I didn’t like that at all.  It seemed like the catch-up game to me.   

I contacted my director and she said it was because I didn’t attend meetings and told me that they helped so much with new ideas and challenges.  I told her I was full of ideas and nothing was working.  I told her I’m not an idiot and I’m not.  I was in the business world for 20+ years and did very well until I chose to stay home with my kids while they are young.   She sent me some CDs and DVDs for encouragement.  I listened to a few and yes, these ladies were excited but they all said the same things, over and over and over again.  I had to wonder why are these women “idolizing” Mary Kay Ash and why it was so important to keep pushing for more recruits versus sales.   

Then my director placed in my hand something that made me question her AND Mary Kay Corporation’s ethics.  It was script that said when recruiting other women who may not have the money to open their business, have them ask other family members and friends for the money to start their business.  ANY company that even HINTS at this type of abomination isn’t ethical NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT; much less gives you exact words as to telling OTHERS to do this!!! I started questioning more and more about Mary Kay this “reputable” company that was around for so long.  My dear friend who was my recruit and I began to talk more about things that weren’t working and how all we got from our director was encouragement to purchase or recruit.  After two out and out lies to me from my director I knew she wasn’t the lady she presented herself to be.  She not only lied to me, she degraded me and insisted that I wasn’t working my business right if I worked more than 20 hours a week.  There was something always wrong with me.  Thank goodness my self-esteem was high enough to know that it wasn’t me.  But being the analyst I am, I had to know what wasn’t working and how all these other ladies seemed to be doing so GREAT!!!! 

My dear friend and I had seen some websites that painted Mary Kay Corporation in a less than flattering light.  Up until this point I had dismissed them.  I decided to see what these websites had to say about Mary Kay.   I read with an open mind other women’s experiences.  I learned of pyramids and MLMs (multi-level-marketing).  I realized to make money you must work constantly and well over 40 hours a week as a consultant or sign up hundreds of people to sell it and KEEP (that is a key word…KEEP) them in Mary Kay.  I had felt and it was confirmed that Mary Kay is a cult.  It meets EVERY definition of a cult.  And lastly, Mary Kay preys upon women who are at home (wanting to be with their kids) with a need for extra money or recognition that at home moms don’t get from their family.  Mary Kay is designed to creep into every fiber of your life until you are engulfed and your life isn’t your own any more.   

The truth, my conclusion, the fact is Mary Kay is a cult within a pyramid scheme.    
Pink Truth provided me the information and support to get my life, my family and my FREEDOM back!   Pink Truth is the place to find truthful information about Mary Kay and other MLMs (most all of the at home party “businesses”) provides a source of support for those in the process of DE-PINKING and recovering!!!!

If you are even considering Mary Kay as an option in your life, investigate it thoroughly and with open eyes.  Just because a reputation is good doesn’t mean you should invest without checking…think about all those who invested in ENRON.   Please don’t go into debt over Mary Kay; please don’t leave your family (like I did for six months)!!!  IT IS NOT WORTH IT AND IT TAKES MORE THAN 40 HOURS A WEEK TO MAKE $500!!!  Just work the numbers and it is easy to figure out!  Look at it this way, you can put 40 hours of work into your MK business and there isn’t a guarantee you will get a dime…not one thin dime because NO ONE HAS TO BUY IT or sign up and STAY in MK! Still think I’m wrong, check out eBay and see how many people are dumping their stuff at a LOSS

Regain your LIFE!!! 

9 Responses to “My Mary Kay Story”

  1. cstrohmeyer Says:

    I find the marketing and business model of companies such as Mary Kay reprehensible. I have watched two friends turn into selfish materialistic monsters. Mary Kay products are good, but no where near what they cost and the need to use friends and bring in more representatives under oneself in this pyramid club all the while using persons all around them is just plain disgusting.

    Carl Strohmeyer- American Aquarium Information

  2. Kristen Says:

    I have decided to stay in Mary Kay, but completely agree with a lot of what you are saying. I sell my items on e-bay, I do NOT recruit my friends, I do NOT stock up on inventory, I do NOT go to raraa meetings all of the time (just when I need to know about Christmas items and whatnot) and I am probably the most profitable woman in our unit. I actually EARN more than I SPEND. It was always really funny to me that the company encouraged us to pay for meetings right after we invested like 5000$ and gave us presents for being a STAR. Then, I saw people pawning those same presents off on e-bay - like I do if I happen to get them (not that I try) and if I win anything. Why not just give us money?

    Also, our items are sooo overpriced. No one will ever sign up under me now becasue I discount my products sooo much. This is how I order. When I need my makeup, I make a list, send our e-mails for a sale (which my clients wait for becasue I never sell anything at retail anymore), then gather their orders and mine and place my order. I deliver, mail them and am done. I do not do parties (or rarely and these are mostly trunk shows) and most clients I go to see I do only one on one facials with. I stopped calling people I don’t know and only do MK for the free or half price products - after all, they are good.

    Thank you for your ideas - so right!

  3. MK Girl Says:

    I have been a Mary Kay consultant for about a year now. Yes, I have a full time day job and work Mary Kay in my spare time. But little by little I am building a strong customer base and team. Soon I will be able to just do Mary Kay.

    Why, you ask? Because I LOVE IT! It didn’t really seem like you ejoyed helping women. You talked a lot about money, and how you didn’t make it. That, you can only blame on yourself. Maybe you weren’t cut out for sales or running a business?
    That’s ok. It is not for everyone. At least you have the choice to do something you love. Find that something and you will soar, I promise.

    I must say having my own business and being my own boss has not been a breeze, but if it was easy it wouldn’t be so fun. I love a challange especially challanging myself to live up to my potential.

    And as far a the product is concerned. It is THE BEST I have ever tried, that was affordable. My acne scars are gone and I no longer have breakouts. I am confident now and happy every day for this opportunity I have been given.

    And I need to add that there is nothing wrong with asking family for a loan to start a business. This is very common with a lot of small business’s. Not everyone can qualify for a loan at a bank.

    And yes, I have a lot to say. I have been reading alot of negative blogs about Mary Kay and am just so disappointed in people. Why waste your time? Move on! Find something that does work for you.

    Also, I am sorry that there are some consultants out there that are deceitful and manipulative for there own means. But, you will be hard pressed to find any company that doesn’t have people like that. I have ,thankfully, never met a consultant like that. My unit members are honest, respectful, ethical women. We do not pay for “meetings”. We do not pressure inventory on on new consultants either. We want real hard working women that are able and willing to have their own business and succeed.

    Ok, now I have finally shared my feelings on the subject. Feeling better. By the way, I am a college graduate with a degree in Computer Science (Which I love) and I still want to make Mary Kay full time.

  4. thecanvasgrey Says:

    You and I will never agree about Mary Kay. I completely respect anyone’s right to choice. I told this story because I’m not the only one who has had this experience. I educated myself on many things, most of all the hype surrounding MLMs (multi-level-marketing). I have links in my right side bar that describes how they work in more detail.

    So many people are selling dreams these days. It is easy to see how anyone could get caught up in this crazy advertising frenzied world. That is another reason why I blog. People getting rich by selling a little something and a whole lot of hot air to people who WON’T get rich and waste their most precious asset, TIME!

    I’ve related my experience openly and honestly from my perspective. I’m far from a lazy person. I’ve discovered so much about myself through the experience so I believe in looking for the good of things.

    Your are right about selling, it isn’t for everyone especially when you have to fake so much. I can’t fake. I’m not a faker and THAT is what made me a good salesperson. People trusted me and unfortunately I trusted some people who weren’t trustworthy and that includes corporate Mary Kay (they are expert at selling dreams). This company is NOT about God, Family, Career…one of their best dream selling pitches.

    I’m very over all this and leave these posts out there for others to read and possibly learn from my mistake. To be more CAREFUL and ALWAYS check and verify when being shown ANY type “opportunity” that is presented to you.

    How did Reagan say it? “Trust but verify.”

  5. Peggy Says:

    I have to agree that there are Units out there like the one you were in. I have been in Mary Kay 2 separate times. The first time from a Friend from out of state. I signed up ordered a small order and came back home to Virginia. When my product arrived I was so excited. Then realitity set in. What did I do now? Who did I do facials on? So I called my friend and was told I needed to get in a good support group. So I dropped out as I knew no one that sold Mary Kay in my area. April 27 2007 A lady came and did a facial on several of us and gave me the cd Choices. When she called me to recruit me I told her I didn;t care what people in other states was doing. Show me your commission checks. She did and I was impressed. No it wasn;t a huge amount only a little over 1500. She was going the following week to pick up her car. Not the Cadiallac just the Vibe. She never told me it was going to be easy. It was gonna take work. I decided I would try once again with Mary Kay. I placed a nice inventory and began my second adventure. We have weekly meetings. No not alot of hoopla. We do training sessions were we learn how to do warm chatter to people we meet along our way while out doing everyday life. My business is beginning to flurish and I see it growing daily. If you meet me you are gonna hear about Mary Kay. I average selling 500 a week with doing a couple of classes a week. I also do gift baskets and take to each class so everyone can get an idea and I have people calling to order them for all occasions. Even men call for them for wife and mothers birthdays. I feel alot has to do with the unit you are in and how plugged in you are. We are never asked to give money for anything. We do have a honor our Hostess night each month and a drawing for a gift basket which we all give a little something towards.

  6. Stephanie Says:

    I also feel that there are a lot of blogs speaking poorly about Mary Kay. This business takes time to build. I have been in the business twice and this time around for a month so far. I personally appreciate the scripts and different ideas my director has given me to aid me in my business. I agree Mary Kay may isn’t for everyone that doesn’t make the company bad. This is a great opportunity you just have to realize it takes time and effort. Mary Kay is great and I suggest to anyone form your own opinion. And please run quickly from any dream robbers and surround yourself with optimistic people. I haven’t read any of the negative blog entirely. They are draining and I would much rather read something up lifting.

  7. thecanvasgrey Says:

    If you believe that Mary Kay is good for you, great. I like to read uplifting things too. I am an optimistic realist. I also find that the truth isn’t always uplifting. My story is my experience with Mary Kay. If there are lots of negative blogs out there about Mary Kay that may say something to you or not. I’ve been honest and open about my experience. It is only negative if viewed that way. I think any business woman would want to know all about the positives and negatives etc. before jumping in based on word of mouth reputation (which is what I did). I think weighing all sides of things before spending time, money and effort is a positive thing. This life lesson taught me that I must be a better steward of my time, money and effort.

  8. heidi Says:

    I am a MK consultant still ACTIVE, signed up last year b/c of the same thing a really nice friend of mine was doing it too and so I signed under her. Regardless to say my friends no longer sell’s mk, she gave it all back. she must have realized the dark truth about it before I did. My mother did it in the past too and really urged me not to get inventory, still to this day she doesnt like that I still continue to order, but I watched a DVD that my director gave me and boy did I fall for it thought well everyone that I know luv’s it and so I should have no problem selling.
    I ordered over 4,000 dollar’s worth of inventory the FIRST time. but my director would still go on about how that just wasnt enough and I was needing to re-order (blah blah blah) So I than proceeded to buy much more b/c of all the NEW CRAP that come’s out and the product changing and discontinuing. and they always’ say but the product’s just will be even better. (who care’s now i am stuck w/ all this crap.) Now I am $10,000.00 dollar’s in dept to my eyeball’s w/ my credit card debt (where’s the profit in that) but that’s not good enough for her. Sometime’s I have to ask someone do you have this product or that b/c I do not have that one item. The last time I had to do that a girl sys well that’s why you have inventory I was like you do not have any idea how much I have in inventory. that was the last time i went to a meeting. I still find myself ordering it’s addictive and the thing is if you do not reorder after a while it make’s you inactive so there for you have to make a min. order just to order what you need. The shipping and handling, after taxes and all that it is outrageous (where’s the profit). I still have over 5,000.00 dollar’s in inventory just sitting around my house. I was told by my director that we can not sell our stuff on e-bay but you know what I think I just might have to just to get rid of it all try to pay off some dept. That’s if I can get rid of it. Be careful if your wanting to get in it the girl’s are just to dang chearful at the meeting’s and the director’s are fake!!! They will not admit it but they do try to talk you into purchasing as much inventory as possible saying well if you dont have it than the customer will go to someone that does. WELL LADIES I HAVE TON’S OF IT AND IT IS NOT GOING ANYWHERE! and it’s true they blame you not going to meeting and say well if you came we can help and once you do it’s just to get you there to buy more crap. or yeah well just get another credit card!!!!
    I once thought my director who claim’s to be a christian woman w/ moral’s and luv’s her family so much. She once told another gurl that she wouldnt meet w/ her for lunch to discuss her ideas unless she got her recruit to order the nxt day what is that about she alway’s claim’s to be there for us when we need to talk w/ her! PLAIN AND SIMPLE GREED!!! THEY GET THE CAR’S BIG COMMISSION CHECK’S OFF WHO? US!!! THAT’S WHO! ALTHOUGH I STILL LUV THE PRODUCT I THINK IF I CAN GET RID OF IT I WILL ORDER FOR PERSONAL USE AND THAT’S IT.

  9. thecanvasgrey Says:

    Heidi, you can get 90% buy back for anything you’ve purchased in the last year and the refund includes what Mary Kay charged you in sales tax. Do that if you can and use the check to put on your credit card. There are people ordering it from MK and putting it directly on eBay because there is new product on there too quickly. If you haven’t already check out http://www.pinktruth.com, there is a wealth of information on the site and the ladies there are very supportive of what you are going through. My Mom and a couple of friends still get it on eBay for WAY less than half price.

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