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Grief in the words of Dr. Suess…

Posted by thecanvasgrey on January 27, 2009

Dad.

Had.

Sad.

Bad.

Mad.

Glad?

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Dreams

Posted by thecanvasgrey on October 26, 2008

I wanted to tell you about the dream I had about Dad last night.

 

We were at the funeral home.  I had gone to an upstairs closet or bathroom that lead to another room that went higher and then to a sun filled place.  Kim was there with me and Dad walked in, he was so young and he looked so wonderful, probably around 35 or 40ish.  The funeral director came to the door.   Dad stood there for a minute and smiled and then went into the room and walked toward the other room that went a little higher and then into the sunlight he went.  I turned to Kim and said, “Didn’t he look so great and young?”  Kim said, “No, Deb I could only see him as an older man.”  I turned to the funeral director and he nodded.  I went down stairs to where the coffin was and Mom was standing alone in front of it.  And at the last minute all of Mom’s siblings came in walking in a straight line, arm in arm, all dressed in black and surrounded her in a circle. (kind of a representation of her family gathering around her).

 

All in all it was a good dream.  I miss him.

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Thanks Mom and Dad!

Posted by thecanvasgrey on May 17, 2008

http://www.dailypress.com/news/opinion/dp-ed_suntopletter_0511may11,0,7289775.story

 

 

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THANKS and by the way…

Posted by thecanvasgrey on April 17, 2008

First, thanks to all of you who’ve been keeping us in your thoughts and prayers.  I really feel them in my heart and soul.  THANK YOU for them.  I really do sit in thoughtful prayer for you as well.  I’m a big giver so when I receive I tend to give back even more.  Your continued thoughts and prayers of support are very appreciated.  As we know more of the details I’ll share them.  Right now we are in a holding pattern but circling the airport.  ha!

I have several things that are pressing, several things that must come out, I’m compelled.

I’ve done a dozen or so posts on autism.  I think highly of so many bloggers who are autistic or parents of autistic children.  I respect them, their view of things, their frustration of things, their joy of things, their need to help others understand, agree, being able to learn and grow.  Just knowing how nice it is to reach out to each other when needed is a wonderful thing. 

In this age of “bi-polar-isms” I refuse to define my precious, sweet son by autism, nor will I.  He is smart, loving, handsome like his dad (of course), very tall, a reader, into astrology, a thinker, a dreamer, he hums happy tunes, still likes to skip (me too…like Phoebe from friends), likes routine (like his dad), sounds just like his brother (vice-versa) when he talks, has an amazing memory, adores his third grade teacher, can easily entertain himself, becomes deeply involved with things he enjoys, can’t concentrate on things he doesn’t and more, more, more.

So what am I getting at???  I’ve been holding my son’s story close (odd because I share so easily) but I’m nervous it will define him.  Or WORSE, that HE thinks that is how I define HIM.

God has been pushing gently at me from many directions and I had my AHA moment this morning, NO FEAR.  I now know I’m to post it, I’m compelled to post it.  In faith I will post it and pray that it reaches those that it is supposed to reach and help.  In faith I will post it believing that my son will KNOW that autism is only a small sliver of who he is, something to help him in his life’s journey and that I love him more than words.  Amen.  Thank you God for love, mercy, all things seen and unseen.

 

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The Truth about Women in Despair

Posted by thecanvasgrey on March 12, 2008

I’ve come across another blog via Angie’s blog  named WomanHonorThyself.  Today, she made excellent observations about how downtrodden and depressed so many women are these days.   

As it fizzled in my brain I thought and commented:

It is hard to admit that we women don’t honor ourselves.  But is it easy to see when the evidence is pointed out so clearly.

I remember a commercial that defined/predicted the onslaught of depression in women:

“I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man.  Cause I’m a woman!”

This is expected of us.  Latch-key kids weren’t included in that song…who the heck is raising the kids? 

Our society has been hypnotised by commercial personas that led/lead us to believe/desire what is dangled out in front of us as the “carrot” of life.  The essense of life is to have what the commercials tell us to have because it makes everyone so happy to have it. 

We can turn just about anything from one perspective to another making it sound so terrible or so great.  But the truth is the truth. 

NO ONE… NO ONE… NO ONE has it ALL.  There are some who would argue that statement.  But deep down we all know the TRUTH. 

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Invasion of the Hubby Snatchers!!!!

Posted by thecanvasgrey on March 7, 2008

s2400042_edited.jpgThat is right…invasion of the Hubby Snatchers…coming to a blog near you!

I couldn’t help but snap a few pictures to document the fact that I went to sleep with one large hubby and woke up to two smaller versions this morning.

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HOW do they do that and WHEN do they do that?  My hubby explains it as a push and shove proposition that takes place late at night after a spell has been cast over me. 

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It is quite magical and fun!  I plan to cherish these moments as they go so very quickly.

And while I’m reminded through pictures,  I’m also building ammo for the terrible teens!  😉

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The Teacher still teaches…

Posted by thecanvasgrey on March 3, 2008

Many of you have seen or heard about Randy Pausch (A Teacheris the link on my blogroll) and his profound final lecture.  I like to keep up on his activities as I am lead to pray for he and his family and all those that suffer from “difficult” diagnoses.  His most recent update proves he is still teaching, God bless him. 

If you or someone you know is facing a difficult diagnoses this is something to read and rejoice:

http://www.cs.cmu.edu/~pausch/news/medianNotMessage.html

He also has a new lecture about time management that I just discovered.  I think he wrote it for me…I’m in DESPERATE need.  I’ll be watching it soon! 

White Rabbit

Photo by krisopherallen

 

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Supporting the troops!

Posted by thecanvasgrey on December 5, 2007

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Why not take a minute and send an uplifting message to the troops?  Some troops are here keeping us safe.  Others are abroad doing the same but away from family and loved ones.  Send a thought, prayer or a word or two their way today.

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Banter about the bizzy side of the autism buzz

Posted by thecanvasgrey on November 18, 2007

s2400016.jpgIf you are concerned about the new buzz word “autism” or words “autistic spectrum” or think autism is the diagnosis du jour read more here (Mr. Blumer) and here (Mr. Sowell).   These are gentleman with whom you may(or may not) agree.  But I’m here to make MORE BUZZ as not to worry about how much more money may be wasted (see my responses to Mr. Blumer’s concern) on autism.

I first found Mr. Blumer’s blog and then read Mr. Sowell’s blog.  Even as someone who is all about autism awareness I can understand the concerns of those that don’t have an autistic in their immediate circle. I can understand the frustration of watching the media beating yet another drum of HIGH ALERT (they better think about the crying wolf fable).   I can understand that people don’t understand.  My own immediate family doesn’t always understand.  

Basically I can put to rest the economic concerns because like radical cancer or AIDs therapy, insurance doesn’t cover everything called “therapy” for autistic people either.   So consequently it comes out of the family purse.  Diagnosis must come from someone OTHER than a family doctor, generally a neurologist or neurodevelopmentalist and is some cases a psychologist (I prefer the neurodevelopmentalist myself) Although I can say that even doctors in specialities can’t agree about spectrum disorders and what constitutes true autism.  However this discussion has been going on for well over a decade.   

I have to mention a giant pet peeve of mine….in Mr. Sowell’s blog the responses had humor, upset and misunderstandings while Mr. Blumer and I had a reasonable discussion.  Why oh why can’t people seem to have reasonable discussions anymore???  I guess upset and discord sells these days.  And there sure are a lot of people making money off it.  I find it very hard to find sensibility these days.  So I’m going to be listening for more sensibility from Mr. Tom Blumer on WRKO this evening starting at 7pm. 

Sensible makes sense, buzzzz

I’m done now. 😉  

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Whatever it takes…

Posted by thecanvasgrey on November 9, 2007

thank-a-veteran.jpg    Thanks to all those who have served, are serving and will serve and to those who paid the ultimate price.

The link below takes you to a beautiful song and slideshow.

THIS BLOG OBSERVES VETERANS DAY!    

Shared by RW. 

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DUMB, DE, DUMB, DUMB…….DUMB!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by thecanvasgrey on October 9, 2007

 DUMB, DE, DUMB, DUMB…….DUMB!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do I want this to stand out from my other posts?  YES!

Now available TUMS FOR KIDS!!!!   

WHAT?

I realize that companies out there want to get kids on the bandwagon as early as possible so they can GAIN BRAND LOYALTY for a LIFETIME.  BUT give me a BREAK!!!!!!

TUMS IS AN OTC MEDICATION THAT TASTES LIKE CANDY! 

Before one rushes out to buy this product PLEASE think about what a child that needs TUMS is eating to cause the need for this OTC MEDICATION!

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve used Tums (as an adult over 40) on occasion and they were effective for a short term solution (that evening).  However, I could never use up the huge bottles they come in now.  (Can you say popping them like CANDY?) I sure couldn’t find the little rolls they used to come in either…wonder why?  HMMM???

I must ponder some questions:

Are drug companies targeting our kids?

Are we ready to put our kids on the road to dependence? 

Are drug companies about greed these days?

Can’t we remove the cause of THIS type of symptom (in most cases) by changing the diet?

Something to think about and be aware of so we aren’t DUMB, DE, DUMB, DUMB….DUMB!!!!!

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Remembering 9/11/01

Posted by thecanvasgrey on September 11, 2007

Remembering 9/11/01 ;

remembering that our troops are in harms way;

remembering they need support in their effort to DEFEAT the terrorists

and make a way for PEACE.

 http://www.anysoldier.com/

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Clichés

Posted by thecanvasgrey on August 11, 2007

 I’m absolutely positive that my parents told me all the things I’m about to write.  However, it was more or less just the cliché and I was supposed to figure that out and accept it as truth.  You know, the lectures where we’d just sit there and, “Listen to what I’m telling you,” and know that “I’ve been there and done that” type of thing.  Telling someone and showing them are two completely different things.  It has to be relative and relatable as well as the recipient being able to understand it at their level. 

So now I’m thinking about how to tell my kids the same things about life’s clichés.  I’m trying to be different, relative, understandable AND compete with electronic excess and access and all the glitz the media can muster (**audible gag**). 

I really want my kids to think about things; these clichés and why they’ve been around so long.  Or maybe for them to know I’VE thought about these things; done these things; tested these OLD clichés without really telling them HOW I tested them!

So here is my stab at explaining, relating and generally teaching my kids about life’s clichés.  Oh yes, I realize it may go in one ear and out the other!!!!!

Look before you leap! 

Seems so simple, look around then jump…HOLD IT!  Who says you have to leap?  Whenever you feel like there is no way off the ledge or you are cornered don’t forget to look in other directions.  Up is always an option!

What comes around goes around! 

Some people call this karma or the ying and yang effect.  You may not ever see it because it may not come back around in the same fashion.  But it is simple to understand that good begets good and bad perpetuates bad. 

Follow your heart! 

I have to add…AFTER a good talk with your head!

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

No matter which side you choose there are nice green spots and bare spots so make the choice knowing as much about the bare spots as the green spots before choosing your side.  No matter which side of the fence you choose, enjoy the green and seed the bare spots because if you cry into the bare spots too much it becomes mud!

Actions speak louder than words. 

Make sure people back up talk with action otherwise they are just yakking.  If you ever wonder about someone; this is the test to give – what are their actions telling you?

A wise man builds his house upon a rock.   

No matter what you do it is best to build a good foundation if it is something that you want to last over time.  Building something that lasts takes time and effort and the rewards aren’t usually immediate.  But when the reward comes it lasts and lasts giving pleasure to you and others for a very long time.  Invest in yourself daily by learning, nurturing your spirit and being physically active (mind, spirit and body).  This lays the foundation of a long, healthy, happy life.  Making a quick buck, getting high, stealing and other “quick fixes” may bring immediate pleasures but they last for very short periods of time and require more and more effort to attain which can ruin the rest of your life.  Don’t do the crime because you don’t’ want to do the time.

There is nothing to fear except fear itself.

If it is something you feel strongly about doing, do it.  Never let fear, especially someone else’s, get in the way.  If it is proven dangerous, it is dangerous.  If it is the unknown then it is just the unknown.  Fearless not foolhardy! 

Stand up for something or you’ll fall for anything.

Know who you are and what you believe to be the truth.  Everyone has their perspective so be open minded enough to see it from their angle but wise enough to stand up for yourself.  Always state your perspective firmly, loud enough for all to hear and understand in your most persuasive voice. 

And now, at the end of my lecture I would like to say one more thing.  I sound just like MY parents.  Oh well, if it looks like a duck and sounds like a duck

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Enough is ENOUGH!

Posted by thecanvasgrey on August 1, 2007

Enough is ENOUGH! 

What do you American men WANT from us?  Okay, I KNOW…but really…who is coming up with the stuff that is supposed to turn men on? Or better yet, who is the “someone” who tells us ALL what it IS that turns men on?   

Before make-up came along it was ruby red lips and pink cheeks.  It was achieved by milling your mouth and pinching your cheeks. And let’s not forget the corset that made those curves curvier.  Add a curling iron, stockings and higher heels to the mix of shorter and shorter skirts and dresses. 

We have to shave WHAT?  Everything, WHO made that decision pray tell? 

Then it seemed blonde hair was all the rage using peroxide, lemon juice, what ever you had, just make that hair blonde; along with the sadists who invented pointy toed high heels and pantyhose (air…air…must have air); and the big hair, big eyes, false eye lashes and boyish figure of the sixties. 

Ah, a breathe of fresh air…for a brief period between Twiggy and disco there was the “back to nature” movement of no make-up, natural hair and comfortable clothing (ah…earth shoes).  Hand me a granola bar will ya? 

In the eighties women went on the hunt for doctors, doctors that did surgery!  For some it was about wanting to look better in her clothes (whatever that means); for others wanting to have the most gi-normous breasts that a female frame can hold.   

Somewhere in the 1990’s “someone” said it is all about toe cleavage… that’s right…all women “in the know” KNEW it was about TOE CLEAVAGE (I KID YOU NOT)!   

Now “someone” says it is lips, big full lips; straight white teeth; no wrinkles and seeing clavicle!  That’s right.  Seeing a woman’s clavicle is a turn on, sexy…so be sure and add that to your list.  Wonder if some will have surgery to achieve this one?  

So where does it end anyway?  When will we achieve this “perfect” woman, this turn on, knockout, sexy thing?  

So I’ve decided ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!! 

I’ve decided I will be the “someone” who dictates what a turn on is to a man! 

Here is exactly what I think should turn a man on and it is one simple sentence! 

A woman who is devoted to you and any offspring you may have produced in this world. 

DEVOTED meaning: dedicated, lovingly committed, feeling or showing loyalty over a long period of time.   

NOW THAT IS A TURN ON; THAT IS SEXY! 

So men out there…that doesn’t do it for you?   If you promise to be DEVOTED to US then you could probably get more of the other things you want!   

See it CAN be simple!   

Ladies, feel free to spread the word!!!!    

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In Honor of Father’s Day

Posted by thecanvasgrey on June 12, 2007

In honor of Father’s Day I’d like to share the following letter I sent to my Dad in 2003.  I still feel the same way.  I also think my kids will feel the same way about their Dad when they are old enough to reflect with maturity. 

Dear Dad, 

Please accept this Father’s Day gift as a VERY small token of my love, respect, and admiration for YOU!!!!  You are a very special Father and I know that and appreciate how lucky I am to have you as my Dad, Friend, and Advisor!   

Thanks for teaching me how to:

·       love unconditionally

·       appreciate whatever I have

·       show affection

·       think logically

·       act morally

·       respect others

·       show kindness 

Thanks for:

·       loving me and my brothers and sister

·       loving my Mom

·       making the best parenting team with Mom

·       taking care of us

·       doing the best you could  

Don’t you think it shows???  We all think our family is the greatest!!!!  We are all so very fortunate to have each other!  Thanks to YOU AND MOM!!!! 

My love always,  Your eldest daughter

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